Setting up a college fund would be a great way to redirect the tangible evidence of Daddy's love.

Anyone who marries gets no guarantee that their partner, no matter what they vow, will always keep that promise.

Insecurity is a toxin and confidence is a tonic, so make the choice not to dwell on the worst possible case.

I spent most of my 20s dating older men, and I really wish I had spent that time dating men my own age who were going through the same experiences I was. I totally understand the appeal of a mature, dashing older man over fellow twenty-somethings who are still figuring things out. And, true, a fling with an older man can be instructive in many ways, and no doubt he finds you attractive.

I'm not suffering from some division of personality.

I think the definition of someone who's still a swinger is a person who remains signed up on swinger websites because they're "humorous." If you'd been married to an alcoholic and found yourself dating someone whose couch cushions were stuffed with empty bottles, you might conclude you're part of the problem and are attracted to men who are going to keep making you miserable in the same oh-so-familiar way. I think you should look to date someone for whom the idea of a swinger website makes him want to slather himself in sanitizing gel.

People who have undergone a loss get a fair amount of leeway on their behavior.