I think the definition of someone who's still a swinger is a person who remains signed up on swinger websites because they're "humorous." If you'd been married to an alcoholic and found yourself dating someone whose couch cushions were stuffed with empty bottles, you might conclude you're part of the problem and are attracted to men who are going to keep making you miserable in the same oh-so-familiar way. I think you should look to date someone for whom the idea of a swinger website makes him want to slather himself in sanitizing gel.
Emily YoffeWhen people are really drunk they have a propensity to harm themselves and others - they fall off buildings, they drive into other cars.
Emily YoffeWhen you have a life milestone happen, it's good to step back and reassess the things you thought you knew about yourself.
Emily Yoffe