Once an affair is over, the cheaters need to agree not to see each other anymore in order to reestablish trust with their spouses.

People who have undergone a loss get a fair amount of leeway on their behavior.

Never loan money to friends or family that you are not able to write off entirely.

People often recommend, "Why do you ask?" as a good conversation stopper. But that really doesn't end the conversation, it just leaves the other person sputtering for a response. I like, "You'll be the first to know.".

I'm not suffering from some division of personality.

Polygamy has an ancient history and is legal in many parts of the world. I find the rules of polygamy to be damaging and it's potentially dangerous to young girls and terrible for "excess" boys. But polyamory is supposed to be a more equal arrangement among agreeing adults.

My inbox [showed me] how much pain there is in the world. I appreciated hearing from people, but it was hard to know I couldn't do anything.