The sadness from reading letters that you know you can't help because it's a person who's in extremis and their problems are not soluble by an advice column.
Emily YoffePolygamy has an ancient history and is legal in many parts of the world. I find the rules of polygamy to be damaging and it's potentially dangerous to young girls and terrible for "excess" boys. But polyamory is supposed to be a more equal arrangement among agreeing adults.
Emily YoffeI have this wonderful capacity just to walk away from my mistakes and not dwell on them.
Emily YoffeSometimes people have a wild past because they have an essentially wild nature, and that's how they plan to go through life. Sometimes such people settle into happy monogamy, and can be content there because they never have to wonder, "What did I miss?"
Emily Yoffe