You can't help someone unless she wants to help herself. You can give her a nudge, but if she doesn't want to help herself, no one is going to be able to force her to do anything. I like that "attraction rather than promotion" approach.
FergieI've dated many different types. I was all over the map. For me, it was learning about being attracted to the right things in a person, not the wrong things.
FergieI feel more comfortable being honest because I don't have to "remember" my answers. You never forget the truth! I just have to learn how much truth to give, that's my boundary. That's my new thing.
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