Your choices are really very limited. They are limited by your level of awareness. If you can change your level of awareness radically, then you can change your destiny.
Frederick LenzRamakrishna didn't suddenly become enlightened. We had years of him meditating, seeking, crying to Mother Kali, going in and out of samadhi; but after many years of this process, he was enlightened. He was no longer a finite individual.
Frederick Lenz