You're bound by the frame. You've become so engrossed in the movie of your life that you have forgotten that you're sitting there watching.

You might wish to try Kali's mantra. Kali is another celestial being. She offers very fast spiritual progress through intensity. Her mantra is "Kring!" When you chant Kring, chant it very intensely and sharply. Only chant Kring when you are in a high meditation.

Celibacy doesn't make you enlightened, otherwise every nun or priest in Buddhism or Christianity would be enlightened. People who don't date and can't get any action would be enlightened.

Meditation is the quickest path to enlightenment.

The problem with love is attachment; love makes you dependent. Unattached love - you love for the hell of it.

If you are losing power in your relationships, with others, then you have to try and remedy that, if you can't, you need to sever the relationship.

Practicing zazen and mindfulness constantly and correctly, over a period of time, can bring strength and clarity to your finite mind and eventually give you access to your infinite mind.