One of the hallmarks of an evolved person is the ability to tell the truth with no fear of punishment or expectation of reward

One of the hallmarks of an evolved person is the ability to tell the truth with no fear of punishment or expectation of reward

There's no such thing as a minor lapse of awareness. You're either present with what is--right here, right now--or you're someplace else.

One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple does not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough.

Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments; they've had the same argument hundreds of times.

The goal in life is not to attain some imaginary ideal; it is to find and fully use our own gifts.

Arguments are often like melodramas - they have a predictable beginning, middle, and end.