Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments; they've had the same argument hundreds of times.

If you want to create vital, long-lasting love, you must become a master of verbal & nonverbal appreciation

Our species in general had grown accustomed to pain and adversity through millennia of struggle . . . we were only recently evolving the ability to let ourselves feel good and have things go well for any significant period of time.

Hoping a situation will change keeps you at a distance from your true feelings-sadness, anger, fear. Each of these feelings is best appreciated up close. Feel them deeply, and they will cease to bother you. Hope they'll go away, and they'll bother you all day.

We keep ourselves so tied up in regretting the past and fearing the future that we don't have any energy left to figure out who we are and what we want to create right now.

Life is fullest when we are most true to ourselves.

The goal in life is not to attain some imaginary ideal; it is to find and fully use our own gifts.