One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple does not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough.
Gay HendricksI accept relationship as my primary teacher about myself, other people, and the mysteries of the universe.
Gay HendricksThere's no such thing as a minor lapse of awareness. You're either present with what is--right here, right now--or you're someplace else.
Gay Hendricks