The term girl not only serves to avoid certain anxiety-arousing connotations inherent in the word woman regarding aggression, sexuality, and reproduction, it also serves to impart a tone of frivolousness and lack of seriousness to ambitious, intellectual, and competitive striving that women may pursue.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.

Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.