Love alone is never a good enough reason to marry.

The more we seek exclusivity in friendship, the more it becomes obligatory and the less likely it is to fulfill the wonderful vision of what true friendship can be.

The first world we find ourselves in is a family that is not of our choosing.

Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even or finding oneself. It is also a matter of choosing oneself.

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . .If, however, we do not use our anger to define ourselves clearly in every important relationship we are in--and manage our feelings as they arise--no one else will assume this responsibility for us.

If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.