Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.

Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it.

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

My debt to feminism is simply incalculable. Feminism allowed me to see past a 'reality' that I had once taken as a given. It helped me to pay attention to countless voices, my own included, that I had been taught 'don't count.' Feminism allows me to maintain hope.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . .If, however, we do not use our anger to define ourselves clearly in every important relationship we are in--and manage our feelings as they arise--no one else will assume this responsibility for us.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.