Helen Fisher Quotes

Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength. When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he's worthy of your love.

Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being.

Psychologists maintain that the dizzy feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to-at best-three years

Men couldn't care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you're carefree and relaxed.

What our grandmothers told us about playing hard to get is true. The whole point of the game is to impress and capture. It's not about honesty. Many men and women, when they're playing the courtship game, deceive so they can win. Novelty, excitement and danger drive up dopamine in the brain. And both sexes brag.

Women, it turns out, are built to lead - particularly in the modern world.

A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.

Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.

Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.

Women spend their lives trying to look good for men. So a woman who feels she's sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.

As societies continue to loosen their standards regarding what is appropriate female and male behavior, I think we are going to realize we have not only underestimated women, but also men.

Like most animals, we're wired to associate height with power.

You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.

You don't come home from the office to spend time with another job. Hopefully you come home to someone you can have a good time with.

My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you're simply more relaxed.

We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.

For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.

In courtship, who wins and who loses will determine who passes on their DNA to tomorrow.

Overdone lipstick is a deterrent to men. It rubs off easily onto their skin and the edges of their shirts, so it discourages them from kissing, touching, and coming closer to you, which is what they really want to do!

There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.

Almost always, when I'm on TV, the producers who call me, who negotiate what we're going to say, is a woman.

Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.

Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.

Women are very attracted to a low voice because it's linked to testosterone, which for millions of years was a sign that men had very good spacial skills and would have been very good at hunting and finding their way back home.

Hair that looks like it's been naturally sun-bleached makes you seem youthful, like you spend a lot of time outdoors. And that appeals to most people.

Today, most women are surrounded by ingenious gadgets. They don't grow the peas or raise the chicken that they serve for dinner; instead they hunt and gather in the grocery store. They go through catalogs or department stores to buy clothes instead of shearing sheep, carding wool, and weaving cloth for skirts and coats and blankets.

We still have community, but we don't seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother's down the street, they're not in arm's length.

We evolved in a tropical climate where the smells of plants and flowers were all around us. We spent a lot of time in the trees with a lot of sunlight and no clothes.

You know, when you've been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life - but no, you just love them harder.

From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.

There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual.

I think that property is very important in this day and age. It defines you; you worked hard to get it. It's meaningful to you, and when you divorce, a lot of people have a lot of battles over their property for good reasons.

There's magic to love... Millions of years ago we evolved three basic drives: the sex love, romantic love, and attachment to a long-term partner. These circuits are deeply embedded in the human brian. They're going to survive as long as our species survive on what Shakespeare called, this "mortal coil."

Along with our many human propensities, we evolved a huge cerebral cortex with which we make decisions.

When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.

The human brain is built to compare; it's Darwinian to consider an alternative when one presents itself.

I've always maintained that men were more romantic than women.

Games are the way we keep romance alive. They're based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.

Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.

Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.

Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.

When chimps threaten, they open their mouth and show their teeth. It's a little like waving a knife in front of you. It's very primitive, and therefore bizarre.

We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.

Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.

Your sweetheart calls you by another's name. His eyes linger too long on your best friend. He talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy - that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation - can overtake your mind and threaten your very core as you contemplate your rival.

There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.

There's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another: Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important. You fall in love with somebody who's somewhat mysterious, in part because mystery elevates dopamine in the brain, probably pushes you over that threshold to fall in love.

Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.