Forgiveness does not mean that we have to continue to relate to those who have done us harm. In some cases the best practice may be to end our connection, to never speak to or be with a harmful person again. Sometimes in the process of forgiveness a person who hurts or betrayed us may wish to make amends, but even this does not require us to put ourselves in the way of further harm.
Jack KornfieldWhat brings the karmic result from the patterns of our actions is not our action alone. As we intend and then act, we create [our] karma: so another key to understanding the creation of karma is becoming aware of intention. The heart is our garden, and along with each action there is an intention that is planted like a seed. The result of the patterns of our karma is the fruit of these seeds.
Jack KornfieldWe need energy, commitment, and courage not to run from our life nor to cover it over with any philosophyโmaterial or spiritual.
Jack KornfieldWith mindfulness, we are learning to observe in a new way, with balance and a powerful disidentification.
Jack KornfieldThe words of the Buddha offer this truth: โผ Hatred never ceases by hatred but by love alone is healed.
Jack KornfieldThe unawakened mind tends to make war against the way things are. To follow a path with heart, we must understand the whole process of making war within ourselves and without, how it begins and how it ends. Warโs roots are in ignorance. Without understanding we can easily become frightened by lifeโs fleeting changes, the inevitable losses, disappointments, the insecurity of our aging and death. Misunderstanding leads us to fight against life, running from pain or grasping at security and pleasures that by their nature can never be satisfying.
Jack Kornfield