Being in a relationship, that's something you choose. Being friends, that's something you just are.
John Green...But there's always suffering, Pudge. Homework or malaria or having a boyfriend who lives far away when there's a good-looking boy lying next to you. Suffering is universal. It's the one thing Buddhists, Christians, and Muslims are all worried about.
John GreenYou're arguing that the fragile, rare thing is beautiful simply because it is fragile and rare. But that's a lie, and you know it.
John GreenThat's always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they're pretty. It's like picking your breakfeast cereals based on color instead of taste.
John GreenWe have to live with ambiguity. We have to give ourselves over to it. The question is: How? How are we going to live in a universe where important questions will always go unanswered?
John GreenThe good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesnโt hurt now. And when people try to minimize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain youโre doing yourself a disservice. Donโt do that. The truth is that it hurts because itโs real. It hurts because it mattered. And thatโs an important thing to acknowledge to yourself. But that doesnโt mean that it wonโt end, that it wonโt get better. Because it will.
John Green