People come up with resolutions that don’t reflect what matters most to them, and that makes them almost guaranteed to fail.

The development of willpower -I will, I won't and I want- may define what it means to be human.

For most of us, the classic test of willpower is resisting temptation, whether the temptress is a doughnut, a cigarette, a clearance sale, or a one-night stand. When people say, "I have no willpower," what they usually mean is, "I have trouble saying no when my mouth, stomach, heart, or (fill in your anatomical part) wants to say yes.

We wrongly but persistently expect to make different decisions tomorrow than we do today

According to the American Psychological Association, the most effective stress-relief strategies are exercising or playing sports, praying or attending a religious service, reading, listening to music, spending time with friends or family, getting a massage, going outside of ra walk, meditating or doing yoga, and spending time with a creative hobby. The least effective strategies are gambling, shopping, smoking, drinking, eating, playing video games, surfing the Internet, and watching TV or movies for more than two hours.

When you choose to view your stress response as helpful, you create the biology of courage.

You can deal with stressful life experiences with strength from past ones.