If we know exactly where we're going, exactly how to get there, and exactly what we'll see along the way, we won't learn anything.

Human beings are poor examiners, subject to superstition, bias, prejudice, and a PROFOUND tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there.

If we deny our anger, our pain, our ambition, or our goodness, we will suffer.

When we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems, we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us.

Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are not willing to do the work that most people do not listen well.

All my life I used to wonder what I would become when I grew up. Then, about seven years ago, I realized that I was never going to grow up--that growing is an ever ongoing process.

Although the act of nurturing another's spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one's own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.