Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.

NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.

Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.