NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.
Marshall B. RosenbergEvery criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
Marshall B. RosenbergWhen we hear the other person's feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.
Marshall B. RosenbergWe do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction.
Marshall B. RosenbergTo do this, you can bring in nothing from the past. So the more psychology you've studied, the harder it will be to empathize. The more you know the person, the harder it will be to empathize. Diagnoses and past experiences can instantly knock you off the board. This doesn't mean denying the past. Past experiences can stimulate what's alive in this moment. But are you present to what was alive then or what the person is feeling and needing in this moment?
Marshall B. RosenbergWhen we express our needs indirectly through the use of evaluations, interpretations, and images, others are likely to hear criticism. When people hear anything that sounds like criticism, they tend to invest their energy in self-defense or counterattack. It's important that when we address somebody that we're clear what we want back.
Marshall B. Rosenberg