Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.