Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.

People don't make us angry, how we think makes us angry.

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person.

If you are a czar or a king or a president or someone that wants to control those below them you do not want people to have a consciousness of life, of their needs. Because people do not make good slaves when they're connected to life... That's why in the public schools the primary objective is obedience to authority.

To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.