NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving.

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.

There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.

Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.

My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs