Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.

We need empathy to give empathy.

Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.

Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.