The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.

The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.

Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.

We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction.

Nonviolent Communication shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, without any insults, without any put-downs, without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.

Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.