The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved.

NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to our own well-being and the well-being of others.

Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other. For example, if to be in love, or to be married, it means that I'm responsible for the other person's happiness, now we get into this guilt game, where if they're upset, I'm at fault. Soon, that makes the person we are closest to about as much fun to be around as a prolonged dental appointment.