Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.
Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.
When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.
Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.
We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.
However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed.