Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs.

We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction.

Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

Nonviolent Communication shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, without any insults, without any put-downs, without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.

Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful - but it's a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation.

The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.

Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.