Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs.

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.

When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.