All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.
The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.
All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.
The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.
With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves.
The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.