You get social pressure from your parents, who teach you to pay attention to certain things and not to others. You get it in school.
Martha BeckTo care for someone can mean to adore them, feed them, tend their wounds. But care can also signify sorrow, as in "bowed down by cares." Or anxiety, as in "Careful!" Or investment in an outcome, as in "Who cares?" The word love has no such range of meaning: It's pure acceptance.
Martha Beck