As soon as you think you know someone else's truth better than they do, you are in deep water.
Martha BeckThe effect of emotional venting is to sustain an unsatisfactory status quo. Most people think the opposite, that complaining is part of an effort to change an unsatisfying situation. Nope. Complaining lets off pressure so that we neither explode with frustration nor feel compelled to take the often risky steps of openly opposing a difficult person or situation. Keeping emotional pressure tolerably low doesn't change problematic circumstances but rather perpetuates them.
Martha BeckI want you to notice is that-right here, right now-youโre okay. You may be in pain, you may be in fear, you may be in grief. But youโre here, youโre surviving; this moment is okay.
Martha BeckIf you find yourself getting nervous stop and relax for three full breaths. Then take one small step, then another. That is how people get to the top of Everest.
Martha Beck