It isnโt necessary to know exactly how your ideal life will look; you only have to know what feels better and what feels worseโฆBegin making choices based on what makes you feel freer and happier, rather than on how you think an ideal life should look. Itโs the process of feeling our way toward happiness, not the realization of the Platonic ideal, that creates our best lives.
Martha BeckRecurrent floods of sadness and anger gradually wash away the rubble of the defunct relationship, leaving only the bits of treasure: the remembered moments of real communion, a new understanding of your own mistakes, a clear picture of the dysfunctions you will never tolerate again.
Martha BeckTo follow your life's guidance, you may have to reassign some seemingly important things to 'unimportant.' If you believe that pleasing your horrible boss or having a spotless house is a higher priority than playing with your children or sleeping off the flu, be prepared for a long and strenuous battle against destiny. Also, be prepared to lose.
Martha BeckWe are a time-starved people, obsessed with fitting huge achievements into our few years. In the process, we often fill our buckets with things that don't matter or work. But when we give up on trying to change what can't be changed, and simply embrace what we love, a miracle occurs. We notice that the moment to be happy has already arrived. It's here, now.
Martha Beck