At times in my life, I have been utterly lonely. At other times, I've had disgusting infectious diseases. Try admitting these things in our culture.
Make stuff up. Anyone who ever did something new or interesting was making it up as they went along.
Your life follows your attention. Wherever you look, you end up going.
Does this feel warmer or colder?
Good fortune has side effects.
Allowing children to show their guilt, show their grief, show their anger, takes the sting out of the situation.