He talks about God, and loving God. he says that when we open to loving a person, whether that person is a spouse, friend, or child, we open our hearts to loving God. He says when we let someone love us, we're opening our hearts to god's love. he says the acts are the same. p 19 I decide loving isn't for the fain. Its for the courageous. p 19

I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214

Striving for excellence is a positive quality. Striving for perfection is self-defeating.

Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.

Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.

Who you are is love. What love does is heal.

Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.