Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.

If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life.

You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.

Who you are is love. What love does is heal.

If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting.

Caring works. Caretaking doesn't. We can learn to walk the line between the two.

We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.