When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.

Happiness is the cessation of suffering.

To reconcile conflicting parties, we must have the ability to understand the suffering of both sides.

No one is more worthy of your kindness and compassion than you are.

Mindful time spent with the person we love is the fullest expression of true love and real generosity.

If love is in our hearts, every thought, word, and deed can bring about a miracle. Because understanding is the very foundation of love, words and actions that emerge from our love are always helpful.

If you are truly present and know how to take care of the present moment as best you can, you are doing your best for the future already.