Oscar Wilde said that the gods punish us in two ways: first, they don't give us what we want, then, they do. He forgot the third way: we finally see the cost of getting it.

I prefer the "tackiest" person in the world to the stylish person who has no tact.

Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age-and all of our fears that it carries-will "rub off" on us, the way that racists once believed blackness would.

The most amazing thing about young men is how invisible they were to you when you were young. It is also the most poignant.

Still water does not only run deep. It runs dangerously.

Falling in love with another man is like falling into a vast vat of yourself. For some men this is ultimately nourishing, for others . . . it is drowning.

Fashion is the art of making the unimportant indispensable.