Fashion is the art of making the unimportant indispensable.

Start a conversation with someone with whom you have "nothing in common" and no possibility of scoring with, networking with, or even seeing again. In other words, a conversation just for the civilized hell of it.

Learn the absolute pleasure of kindness.

Stay up and listen to lightening. If there is no lightening around, stay up and listen to nothing. Just listen to the sheer joy of your thoughts trans-versing from one corner of your brain to the next.

Falling in love with another man is like falling into a vast vat of yourself. For some men this is ultimately nourishing, for others . . . it is drowning.

Have hot, wild sex with a friend. Then go out and do something stupid, like bowl, afterwards.

Although some fools find rudeness sexy, it is never the path to seduction.