Take the high road, there's a lot less traffic up there.
Stand up and walk out of your history
When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.
Unless you know who you are, you will always be vulnerable to what people say.
Relationships are negotiated and if you deal with ultimatums and authority all the time, then you're not going to get anywhere.
I grew up in athletics, where people keep score.