If you don't know what it is you want - and I mean specifically - then you won't even know when you have it.
I grew up in athletics, where people keep score.
When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.
This is your life and the clock is ticking.
Those who marry for money end up EARNING it anyway.
You have to figure out what that is, and you have to make a plan to get to it. And the plan has got to have a timeline. You have to choose something that you can afford to do and then lock it in and passionately do it.