Food is a coping mechanism; people are afraid of giving it up because then they'll feel confused and lost.
You either get it or you don't. Become one of those who get it.
Learn when's a good time to shut up
Life Is Managed; It Is Not Cured.
You need to face the pain and the fear and walk through the Grief.
It's so much easier to tell people what they want to hear instead of what they need to hear.