There's a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It's not something you can give; it's something they have to build. Coach Graham worked in a no-coddling zone. Self-esteem? He knew there was really only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can't do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process.

Complaining does not work as a strategy.

Never lose the child-like wonder. It’s just too important. It’s what drives us. Help others.

Advice is very easy to give, and even easier not to follow, so I don't fool with it.

Be good at something. It makes you valuable.

Take Time Out. It's not a real vacation if you're reading email or calling in for messages.

He had high hopes for society, and though his hopes were too often dashed, he remained a raging optimist.