Go out and do for others what somebody did for you.
Apologies are not pass/fail.
I’d compare college tuition to paying for a personal trainer at an athletic club. We professors play the roles of trainers, giving people access to the equipment (books, labs, our expertise) and after that, it is our job to be demanding.
It's not how hard you hit. It's how hard you get hit... and keep moving forward.
it make no sense to talk about rights without also talking about responsibilities
There are respectful, considerate things that can be done in life that will be appreciated by the recipient, and only good things can result.