In the Jewish tradition of the Bible it says, "Speak to her softly, so that she will want to engage in sexual activity." In today's world, there's a little bit of a danger in that people don't really talk to each other. You see couples walking in the street, each one of them texting someone else. That worries me.
Ruth WestheimerSex is still the most interesting subject under the sun. People will say my wife is too tired or my husband is too tired, and I listen and I say 'go for help.'
Ruth WestheimerDon't share your fantasies unless you're sure your partner really wants to hear them.
Ruth WestheimerSex is not a sin. Many people have complained that this is taking all the fun out of sex.
Ruth WestheimerI don't like to see teenage men wearing very tight jeans. The sight of an erection belongs in the privacy of the bedroom, living room, or kitchen floor.
Ruth WestheimerMy favorite animal is the turtle. The reason is that in order for the turtle to move, it has to stick its neck out.
Ruth WestheimerTalking from morning to night about sex has helped my skiing, because I talk about movement, about looking good, about taking risks.
Ruth WestheimerSkiers make the best lovers because they don't sit in front of a television like couch potatoes. They take a risk and they wiggle their behinds. They also meet new people on the ski lift.
Ruth WestheimerIt's up to the man to not be offended when she tells him what she needs. He shouldn't say, "I know that!" And he shouldn't say, "The woman that I had before you had ten orgasms without her telling me anything!"
Ruth WestheimerOur way is not soft grass, it's a mountain path with lots of rocks. But it goes upwards, forward, toward the sun.
Ruth WestheimerYou can either give in to negative feelings or fight them, and I'm of the belief that you should fight them.
Ruth WestheimerWhen I was in my routine training for the Israeli army as a teenager, they discovered completely by chance that I was a lethal sniper. I could hit the target smack in the center further away than anyone could believe. Not just that, even though I was tiny and not even much of an athlete, I was incredibly accurate throwing hand grenades too. Even today I can load a Sten automatic rifle in a single minute, blindfolded.
Ruth WestheimerIt is a catastrophe, all of this virtual being together. I think there are people who get hooked on the internet. If they need to look at explicitly sexual material to be aroused there is a problem.
Ruth WestheimerThe taste of chocolate is a sensual pleasure in itself, existing in the same world as sex... For myself, I can enjoy the wicked pleasure of chocolate... entirely by myself. Furtiveness makes it better.
Ruth WestheimerBoredom is the biggest problem. The same position. Same day of the week. It becomes boring when you don't bring any added flowers home.
Ruth WestheimerFor some people, 'ten feet tall' is just a metaphor. For me, it's more than twice my height!
Ruth Westheimer