Be who you are and I'll be who I am. I refuse to take sides, because everybody has their story.

I'm not saying I'm some high priestess. I do things, I'm sure, that are damaging, but it's certainly not on purpose.

You have to take the basics of feminism and the kind of outline of it and do what you do with it. You have to make things work for your own life.

I hate to judge everybody across the board.

People feel like if they don't have a voice or a name or the spotlight, then they're invisible. But if you can't wake up in your world, in your life, with your family and your friends, and enjoy it, then forget it. All bets are off, because that's all anybody is guaranteed.

It's up to couples, to individuals, to have a trust between each other.

I've become this sort of icon for the gay community. I don't like the position.