The heart and soul of loving yourself is integrity and the peace of conscience it inspires.
Involve people in the problem and work out the solution together.
Through it all I have learned that parenting is basically a life of self sacrifice.
We not not our feelings. We are not our moods. We not even our thoughts.
If we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.
The more involved you are, the more significant your learning will be.