None of us see the world as it is but as we are, as our frames of reference, or maps, define the territory.

When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . . . This paradigm is powerful in business as well.

we're responsible for our own lives.

When you really listen to another person from their point of view, and reflect back to them that understanding, it's like giving them emotional oxygen.

Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.

Live the law of love. We encourage obedience to the laws of life when we live the laws of love.

Security represents your sense of worth, your identity, your emotional anchorage, your self-esteem, your basic personal strength or lack of it.