Mindfulness is a pause - the space between stimulus and response: that's where choice lies.

When I'm attached, I find that I don't see the other person as clearly because I'm more caught up in what I'm wanting.

Most of us need to be reminded that we are good, that we are lovable, that we belong. If we knew just how powerfully our thoughts, words, and actions affected the hearts of those around us, we'd reach out and join hands again and again. Our relationships have the potential to be a sacred refuge, a place of healing and awakening. With each person we meet, we can learn to look behind the mask and see the one who longs to love and be loved.

Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.

Suffering is our call to attention, our call to investigate the truth of our beliefs.

The muscles used to make a smile actually send a biochemical message to our nervous system that it is safe to relax the flight of freeze response.

There's healthy attachment, like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival.