Being well-mannered and gracious and kind are things that I value really highly.
I would love to love something, especially if I could do it without feeling like I was watching it die right in front of me.
I was always face to face with total futility and powerlessness.
There doesn't seem to be a lot of stance from the outside of that world to disagree.
Go ahead and do what you're doing.
I'm really bad at being nonviolent.