Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.

For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

I teach people to be flexible, scientific and logical in their thinking and therefore to be less prone to brainwashing by the therapist.

Needing leads to bleeding - to almost all inevitable suffering.

I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.

We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.