You allow people to treat you the way they do. Your energy, confidence and attitude is the currency that others will transact with.

I've learned that each time you go through a breakup, the pain isn't any more or less intense or hard, but the way you process and get back up can be different when you learn the tools to get yourself back to equilibrium. There are so many lessons that can be learned during times of heartbreak, and there's an opportunity to grow and become more emotionally healthy.

Oftentimes, we get advice from people who are not equipped to give it, and it does more harm than good.

Chemistry does not guarantee compatibility.

There's a great difference between being positive and being delusional.

Sometimes, things need to come undone for better things to come together.

Be kind and gentle on yourself. In this fast-paced world, we are so hard on ourselves and impatient with healing. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process. Sure, you can numb the pain or distract yourself, but if you don't allow yourself to process the emotion in a healthy way, the pain and darkness just gets buried deep inside you, and eventually comes up in your future relationships. Stop blaming yourself, and instead try to look for the lesson and the growth opportunity.