We don't always get everything. And sometimes we worry too much about our circumstances. We think oh I'll be happy when I get my job back, or I'll be happy when I get a man back, but it's really about allowing God to give us joy now.

It's your life... why not fill it with as much joy as possible?

You can't have real and authentic friendships unless you honor your feelings.

We are all drawn to problems and solving problems. Joy doesn't demand our time. So we have to mark that time on our schedules. That's the only way you are going to get it. Five minutes, three times a day in your schedule. That's doable.

Friends are people who are in your life because you feel good around them and you like them. Friends are the people you choose to be with.

I realized that I spent more time thinking about my problem clients than my great clients. I had to stop feeding the drama of the problem clients-and other problems in my life.

I spent so much of my life shut down from the abuse of my childhood. I didn't have friends and I didn't have connections with people.