Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone.

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.