The best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.

When we are willing to accept our experience, just as it is, a strange thing happens: it changes into something else. When we avoid pain, struggle not to feel it, pain turns into suffering.

We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered thoughts. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.